In a 2005 article in American Psychologist, Barbara Fredrickson and Marcial Losada suggest that ratios of positive to negative emotions above about 3-to-1 and below about 11-to-1 are what humans need to flourish. In separate research studies — Fredrickson on positive emotions and Losada on characteristics of high-performing business teams — each found a 3.0 tipping-point.
December, January and February 2011-12 flew by at rapid speed, filled with activities to complete projects, entertain house guests, travel and sing a once-in-a-lifetime event. March starts my new year with a few days of reflection on 2011 and futuring about what's next. In case this sounds like your life, here are the starting questions I'm asking myself for this new year.
I just completed a second music composition project for 2011 after a 30-year hiatus from writing. Learning to live with ambiguity shows up again, plus more shifting my identity from what I do to who I am, as in "I am enough." Ah, the saga continues.
Understand your real intentions and state them. This transparency works for any project when others are involved to produce the project or to purchase the project.
It's been a summer filled with traveling, with more in store the next two weeks. When I travel, I have more time for reading. Here's what I'm packing for this next trip.
Gratitude is the single greatest treasure. Paul's response: An attempt at super-human strengths.
Be that safe harbor for somebody else — their safe place to fall. Paul's response: Safety in threes.
Whispers are always messages, and if you don't hear the message, the message turns into a problem. And if you don't handle the problem, the problem turns into a crisis. And if you don't handle the crisis, disaster. Your life is speaking to you. What is it saying? Paul's response: How loud does the whisper have to be?
I wait and listen for the guidance that's greater than my meager mind. Paul's response: Revelations in the stillness.
Every single person you will ever meet shares a common desire. They want to know: 'Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you?' Paul's response: Holding a sacred space for listening.
You're worthy because you are born and because you are here. Your being here, your being alive makes worthiness your birthright. You alone are enough. Paul's response: Shifts of paradigms.
People started coming on this show saying things they couldn't say to their own family members. Little by little, we started to release the shame. Paul's response: Secrets on crumpled paper.
For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction — articulated to perfection by Miss Celie in The Color Purple: Everything you done to me already done to you. It is the Golden Rule to the 10th power. Paul's response: Expanding the Golden Rule.
You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you're responsible for the energy that you bring to others. Paul's response: Rewriting my story about my mom.