On her final show, Oprah shared her greatest lessons and hopes for her viewers. In this series of posts, Paul highlights ten lessons Oprah learned, along with his related and unrelated thoughts and stories.
“When I started this show, it was a revelation to all of us how much dysfunction there was in people’s lives. I grew up with Leave It to Beaver and Andy Griffith. I thought everybody’s family life was like that, even though I knew mine was not. Well this show, and our guests, began to paint a different picture and allowed us to drop the veil on all the pretense and do exactly what we envisioned in that first show: to let people know that you are not alone.…
“People started coming on this show saying things they couldn’t say to their own family members. Little by little, we started to release the shame.” — Oprah Winfrey, May 25, 2011
Secrets on crumpled paper
In graduate school, Geoff Bellman, one of the guest faculty presenters, asked our cohort of 40 change agents to each take out a scrap of paper, write down our worst fear, crumple the paper up and throw it across the room. Next we each picked up a crumpled piece nearby, opened and read what was written. Most of the papers had “I’ll be found out that I’m a fraud” or something similar. I was not alone.